Not all weight can be weighed……

Carrying-the-burden-in-HondurasMost of my blogs are about weight loss. The kind that can be measured on a scale, with a tape, or the size of your jeans.

But there is another kind of weight that cannot be measured. For me, it was the weight of unmet expectations and unrealized dreams along with the burden of perceived responsibilities.

Truth be told, I knew that I was carrying this weight but didn’t fully realize just how heavy it was until it was lifted off my shoulders with the closing of the church and the sale of the building.

Like fat, it was weight that was never meant to be carried on the human frame or in the spirit.

And there is another part to this that correlates to physical weight and that’s that it is so easy to gain again. I’ve found that during the last few days that I get wound up about little things.

I’m going to have to teach myself to live the salt life, relax in the sun, or take a walk in the warm rain that’s falling from the southern skies. The only real decisions that need to be made are what to eat, when to workout, and where to go.

When I was trying to lose weight I had to replace old habits with new, healthy ones. I had to train my taste buds to be satisfied with nutritious foods. I had to confront my sugar addiction. And I had to train my body with physical exercise.

Now, I’ve got to replace old thought patterns with new ones. Once again, I have to confront my control issues, and I’ve got to teach myself how to live in the moment.

Is there weight that cannot be weighed that you’ve been carrying? Is it it time to allow the Father to lift it from your shoulders? Is it possible that in 2015 that you could weigh less than you’ve weighed in a very long time?

“Come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” 

Matthew 11:28-30

Photo Source

Blame.  Guilt. Shame.

These are words and emotions meant to manipulate, control, and condemn. Blame is a cruel reminder of the past. Guilt locks the door in the prison of regret. Shame dissolves hope.
And, often, weight-gain is the concertina wire that surrounds the prisoner locked into this prison.

Conviction. Repentance. Forgiveness.

These are so much more than words. They are the work of the Holy Spirit who
gives freedom from manipulation and allows condemnation to be shaken off like the sand on our feet. The Holy Spirit transforms regrets into opportunities.

I believe that once we begin to walk in the fullness of the Holy Spirit we will discover that the prison doors, locks, and concertina wire are no longer needed and that extra weight can begin to melt away.




Yesterday I mentioned that our bodies are the only thing that we have throughout our lives. Everything is either relational or temporary.

Now, I don’t want you to think that relationships are not important. The truth is that we were created to love and be loved and we can only do that if we are in relationship with God and people.

HankFor the next few blogs, I’m going to write about how our perception of our bodies and our health affect the three most important people relationships in our lives. Later, I’ll share with you my thoughts on how our bodies affect our relationship with God the Creator.

The most important relationship in my life is with my husband, Hank. He’s more my life partner. He’s my best friend, fellow adventurer,  the father of my daughter, my ministry partner, and the one I turn to when life is not working out like I thought it would. He loves me more than anyone ever and has proven that he’ll always be there for me time and time again.

And yet, there have been many times that I’ve allowed my perception of my body to create a distance between us wider the Mississippi River. I’ve hidden in layers of clothes, turned out lights, and rejected his attempts at intimacy. (And when I rejected those attempts at intimacy I was rejecting him by implying that how I feel about my body is more important than how I feel about him.)

Like Eve after eating the forbidden fruit, I’ve tried to cover my nakedness because I’m ashamed of myself.

This lack of intimacy intensifies the lack of communication which leaves us feeling like roommates instead of lovers.  God did not create roommates to become one! When we are living as roommates instead of lovers then we have denied ourselves the power of agreement, the strength of two putting ten thousand to flight, and no one to pick us up when we fall.

Jesus said, “What therefore God has united (joined together), let not man separate or divide.” Mark 10:9

And I allowed the shame that I felt about my body to separate me from my husband and forfeited the blessings of God in my marriage all because I was not willing to exercise self-control in my life by denying myself those foods that pack on the pounds.

And I used those extra pounds as an excuse for not exercising which only compounded the problem. I found myself in an endless cycle where I could find no joy in my marriage or in life.

And then one day, I decided that it was time to make some changes. I started with watching what I ate and exercising and as the pounds melted away like wax on a candle my relationship with Hank improved….

Someone once asked me if Hank loved me more when I was thin than when I was overweight……. No, I love myself more when I’m thin! And when I love myself more I’m willing to come out from hiding to allow Hank to show me just how much he has always loved me. 


Scripture References:

  • Genesis 2:25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
  • Genesis 3:Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.
  • Deuteronomy 32:30 How could one have chased a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had delivered them up?
  • Ecclesiastes 4:Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor; 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? 12 And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.