Hannah and I were talking today and she asked me some interesting questions…..

Why is it so awkward to to tell another woman that she has a good body? Or great skin? Why is it  awkward to tell another woman that she’s attractive or pretty?

Before we moved on to another topic, she asked….

Why is it so much easier for women to tear down other women than to build them up?

If you’re a woman then you have probably experienced another woman tearing you down, putting you in your place, or sharing their concerns about you. I know I have!

When I was in my late 20’s, I started running and cycling. It was also during that time that I stopped eating meat and focused on eating lots of fruits, veggies and beans and rice. So it was no surprise to me when I started dropping my baby weight.

But it was a big surprise to some of the ladies I knew. I heard people whispering when I came into a room but didn’t know what they were saying until a very good friend pulled me aside to tell me that she was concerned that I had become anorexic. She wanted to know just how much I was eating every day and if I was making myself throw up.

They couldn’t see the miles my running shoes had covered or the hills my bike had climbed. They weren’t with me when I was eating breakfast, lunch or dinner. All they saw was the girl who came to church every Sunday and Wednesday and that girl was losing way to much weight so something must be wrong with me.


Just sharing this memory with you makes me sad! It seems like women treat each other exactly the same way that Satan treated Eve when he suggested that she was lacking something that could only be found in eating.

Ladies, it’s time for us to embrace the awkward and start telling other women what we admire about them.

Let me give you an example of how to do this….

oxygenmagazineliftless-01I was at the gym the other day and I noticed a woman about my age who has an incredible body. You know, like one of those bodies on the cover of Oxygen. I watched her work hard in the gym but I kept my earbuds in and my mouth shut. The next time we were in the gym together, I decided that I was going to say something and I told her that I really admire the body that she has built with diet and exercise.  She said thank you and I thought that was the end of the conversation. But as she was heading out the door, she came back over to where I was and said thank you. She went on to say that she’s used to men hitting on her and the jealous looks she gets from other women in the gym but that this was the first time she felt respect and admiration from another woman.

Her last words to me were….

I like this feeling!

Ladies, let’s stop tearing down others and start building them up! When you see a lady that you admire, tell her! Maybe it’s her parenting skills, the way she does her hair, the clothes she wears, or the body that’s wearing those clothes.

And if you feel awkward complimenting another woman then it’s time to…..



Wrinkle-Cream-picOkay. The other day I was putting on my eye makeup. After finishing the rest of my makeup I looked back at my eyes to make sure there were no smudges or clumps of mascara. And then I noticed what seemed like a crease in my makeup. I rubbed and rubbed it but it would not go away. And then I realized that it’s not a crease in my makeup, it’s a dang crease in my eyelids. It’s a stinkin’ wrinkle!

Well, obviously, I am not ready for wrinkles. I like the grey streaks in my hair because I know that I can cover them up if I ever want to. But wrinkles! They are here to stay. And they promise to bring more friends with them to reside on the landscape known as my face.

So, I do what every other woman my age would do. I go to buy some kind of miracle cream that will erase all signs of aging. As I step up to the consultant, I tell her that I want a cream that will make my face look as young as my body feels. And you know what she tells me? She says that my skin is beautiful and that although her products are good they are not necessary and I “definitely don’t need them” yet.

Really. Isn’t it sad that I look at myself and see what’s wrong and others look at me to see what’s beautiful? And you know, it’s the same with God. I go before Him telling Him everything that is wrong with me and my life. And He’s doing best to tell me that I am beautiful and He’s got everything else under control. Sometimes we need to shut up, listen to those around us,  learn to take the compliment, and receive the love!

Everything about you is beautiful, my love; you are without a flaw……

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