A tranquil mind gives health to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30 (CJB)
A calm and peaceful and tranquil heart is life and health to the body, but passion and envy are like rottenness to the bones. Proverbs 14:30 (AMP)
I’ve told you over and over that I struggle with comparing myself to others. It may seem harmless to look with envy at the athletes/models in magazines or at the fit women in my gym, but it isn’t because every time I do that I come up lacking.
Whenever I fall back into the habit of comparing myself to others or envying what they have achieved, I always end up feeling disappointed, discouraged, and, quite often, depressed.
You see, there is a great difference between comparing myself to someone and being inspired by her. When my motivation is envy, I cannot learn from that athlete/model in the magazine because envy forces me to find or create explanations for why she is so much better than I am. These explanations may be as harmless as she has better genes for this than I do, this is her full time job, or may be as negative as noting that she could not have achieved this look without plastic surgery or photo-shopping.
And, when I’m around real people who are much more than images on a page, not only can I not be inspired by them or learn from them, I am not able to develop true and lasting relationships with these amazing women because envy, comparison, and insecurity sole intention is isolating me from others.
For me, comparing myself is a habit that pokes it’s ugly head up when I least expect it. I can walk out of my house feeling as if I’ve never been prettier only to arrive at a party to discover that I am surrounded by women who are prettier, fitter, and dressed better than I am. What do I do then?
My options are to retreat into the corner or to come out strong with the truth: I am more than my looks. I am more than what I am wearing. I am more than my level of fitness. I am more than I weigh. I am more than enough……
And I am more than willing to be your friend!