On the road….

I did something I’ve never done before in my life! I drove from Gallup to Panama City Beach all by myself. The hours spent alone and behind the wheel made me realize one thing.

I could never be a truck driver!

I’ve confessed that I’m a stress eater but this trip showed me that I also eat out of boredom and to stay awake.

Knowing why I eat is huge! It’s because I know why I eat that I can prepare what I eat. I now know that if I’m by myself in a car for extremely long periods of time that I’ll eat to stay awake.

The good news is that I had prepared for the trip by  packing nuts, raisins, cherries, bottled water, and dark chocolate covered almonds as my sweet treat. So even though I ate out of boredom and to stay awake, I ate food that was good for me.

What about you? Do you know where your temptations lie? Have you identified those things that cause you to munch your way through the day? And, have you prepared for those times?

For me it’s preparation that helps me win the battle of the bulge. And I’m sure it will help you too!

Eating out…

Unless I’m away from home, I’m not one to eat out very often. I think the food that I make myself tastes better and I know it’s better for me.

That being said there are times when  I do go out to eat for lunch appointments. Usually, I go to Angela’s and eat the Greek Salad with Grilled Chicken. But today, I went to El Sombrero. New Mexican food is not the healthiest option there is so I have to find a way to eat what is offered and do my best to eat well.  Luckily, Hank is always willing to share a plate with me…so we had the chicken burrito with green chile and very little cheese.

When you find yourself in a restaurant that doesn’t offer healthy options the next best choice is to share the healthiest thing you can find on the menu. If no one is willing to share with you then you can ask for a to go box before you start eating, divide your plate into thirds, place two-thirds in the box, and eat the rest. (You know that eating a half portion is still too much so don’t tempt yourself to eat half.)

After sharing my meal with Hank I was able to leave the restaurant with no regrets…. And you can do the same!

Misery is a state of mind…

It’s true. Misery is a state of mind. You choose misery or happiness.

Have you ever noticed that siblings will live in the same household, have the same parents, go through the same problems and yet one is happy while the other one is always miserable? It’s because they each chose how they would respond to life. One chose happiness and the other chose misery.

Blaming misery on others doesn’t make anything better…. it’s just a manipulative way of inviting someone to join you in your misery. You know the old saying, “Misery loves company.” Well, it’s absolutely true. If you are miserable then you want to make darn sure that no one around you is happy so you blame them for your misery. You do everything within your power to make sure that they know that if they were different then you’d be happy.

You’ve created an environment where no one can truly be happy. Your spouse can’t relax in your presence. Your children are uncomfortable riding in the car with you. Friends avoid lunch dates. Even pastors are afraid to answer the phone when called.

And that’s because everyone knows that there is absolutely nothing they can do to make things better for you.

More than anyone else, women tend to be miserable in their own bodies. They hate the way they look. Dread swimsuit season. Avoid intimacy.

Women stand in front of the mirror and curse the very image of the living God as they curse themselves. Women routinely rehearse and magnify their faults and ignore their beauty.

And because they are miserable they make darn sure that everyone around them is miserable. Husbands are afraid to say anything because they don’t know how it will be heard. Children walk on eggshells. And daughters are taught to hate themselves. No one is happy and everyone is miserable.

If you are miserable in your own skin then it’s your own fault. You can choose to remain the same or you can choose to do something about it.

Here are a few ideas that will help you go from miserable to happy:

  • Start complimenting yourself. Begin to tell yourself that you are made in the very image of God and that’s absolutely beautiful!
  • Stop waiting on the magic pill that will melt your fat away to reveal the strength beneath. Instead:
  1. Develop the fruit of the spirit known as self-control.
  2. Eat well because the better we eat the better we feel.
  3. Exercise. God made your body strong!

Shifting Sand

My worst mountain bike wrecks have been in the sand. As a result of the shifting sand,  I’ve flown over the handle bars and crashed. I’ve come home with skinned knees, bruises, and cuts all because of the sand.

And this year it’s more sandy than ever! The lack of rain, extremely hot weather, and blowing winds have caused the low spots to fill with this shifting sand.

I had to learn how to navigate my way through the sand. While pedaling, I must think about pushing my bottom behind the saddle, loosening my grip on the bars, and riding through the sand instead of freaking out, getting off my bike, and walking through the sand.

There’s nothing wrong with walking through the sand if you’re on a hike but I’m not hiking! I’m cycling with my husband who could ride a bike through quicksand.

Sometimes I get a little frustrated. Okay, I get really frustrated when Hank starts telling me how easy it is to ride in sand. He’s telling me what I should be doing and I know what I should be doing. I’m just not doing it!

I could easily use this as a metaphor for our faith walk, couldn’t I? It’s when we start trying to navigate our way through the shifting sand that we get in trouble. We fly over the handlebars, wreck, and come home with skinned knees, bruises, and cuts. We end up feeling frustrated with ourselves!

Even worse is that we get frustrated with God. We know what the problem is. We know what we should be doing. We’re just not doing it. So we get mad at God for telling us what to do.

In the same way that I have to learn how to navigate my way through the sand while pedaling, we must learn how to navigate our way through life while living. Life doesn’t pause for us to figure it all out. The shifting sand will always be there.
The only way to learn how to navigate our way through life is in the Word and learning to listen to those who know how to ride through quicksand…..



(Note how deep the sand is on my tire…..)